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7 TIPS on how to let your parents know that you are an atheist! 

When you live with parents who are deeply religious, it may be difficult to come up with effective ways to let them know you are an atheist. Unfortunately, there have been cases of teenagers who were shunned, made to leave the household, lost education support, or had their family ties completely severed by intransigent religious parents. So before going any further, please consider your family profile and your financial status. If you are still young and financially dependent of a family who will punish you for not sharing their beliefs, you might want to weigh the pros and cons of telling your family before it’s convenient to you.Here are a few pointers that should make your announcement less shocking ? to you and to them.

1. Don’t be confrontational

One of the main characteristics of Atheists is to show respect for other people’s beliefs. Remember where your family is coming from. Don’t try to convert them or put yourself in a position of winning or losing the argument. Remember that the focus is that you are exercising your right to choose reason and state it as a fact.

2. Don’t demand immediate acknowledgment

For some folks, especially the ones who take their religious lifestyle as the only possible way, the news may take a little longer to sink in. These family members tend to address their shock with remarks like: I am sure it’s just a phase.

3. Disregard the Guilt Trips

Your beliefs are your choice even if you were raised in a way that made you feel you had no choice.
No, no one is going to die because you’re an Atheist. Nope, no one is going to hell because, really, there is no such a thing.
Don’t feel guilty. 

4.Tell it over dinner

Talking about anything over dinner is the way to keep everyone in the same room. A lot of families that can’t handle conflict tend to physically walk away from conversations they consider difficult to have or subjects they would rather not discuss.
Also, talking between bites and sips gives you the time to process whatever comes your way and to summon the self control you might need to keep your cool.

5. Understand Christian Apologetics

This is important. You don’t need to be a proficient debater, but you need to get familiar with the arguments that will invariably come your way. The seven most popular arguments are listed here. If you have a tougher audience, a quick Google search will get you the support you need.

believers who were once priests, nuns, pastors, rabbis, shamans, ?and the fact they no longer believe doesn’t make the time they believe a fake.

6.Be ready to accept they may never believe you

Here’s something to remember, not only for addressing Atheism, but when dealing with any conflict. You can only control how you handle a situation, not how others do it.

7. Ease their fears

If you have a chance, make sure your folks understand that you will be at cousin Njuguna’s wedding. Becoming an Atheist doesn’t mean you will burst in flames entering a church or a synagogue.

When people only understand what Atheism is from religious media or very biased sources, they have no idea what it means.


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This entry was posted on March 5, 2017 by in Uncategorized.
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